How to get rid of rapes from the society?

After the Delhi gang rape everybody started talking about capital punishment or stringent punishment for rapes.  What they don’t understand is stringent laws or capital punishment cannot get rid of rapes.

Stringent punishments may help to reduce the incidence of rapes by instilling fear but this is not the ultimate solution. There is no country in the world without rape.

So what is the solution?

First we need to understand why rape happens.

                                                                  Food, clothing, shelter and sex are considered to be the basic needs for human beings. (as far as I know Ramalina Swamy  also known as vallalaar is the first person to say sex is the basic need. Then Maslow’s proposes need theory).

Food and Sex are paramount important for human beings.

To fulfill hunger what humans normally do?

Cultivating food or earn money by working to buy food – this is what normally every humans does. This is the generally accepted way of fulfilling hunger. In this same way when it comes to physical need we have a set up called marriage.

Begging - when someone is not able to work or by laziness he starts begging.  – We should not encourage this. (Monks begging is something different).

Stealing - some who are not engaged in the above two or even some who have engaged in above two activities involve in theft.  I would equate this with love. Yes, love was considered to be an act of indiscipline. But today’s modern society started accepting it as normal.

Burglary- the people who least bothered about morality, who does not have any human values engage in burglary. I would equate burglary with rape. (I do understand Crime level and atrocity committed in the rape is much higher.)

I just tried to give similarities between hunger and physical need just to get an understanding how humans normally act to fulfill the need of food and sex.

Factors that occupies an an immoral person's mind with sexual feelings
Public foreplay:

When A is very hungry at the same time B is having food in front of him. What A will do if he does not have any morality? Of course he will try to take food from him. In the same way when lovers are kissing, hugging in park, beaches what the person who does not have any lover, does not have any morality, will do?  He ma try to engage in molestation whenever he gets an opportunity. He may involve in rape when he get an opportunity.

Public foreplay is also an act of immorality. But those who engage in that will agree? Innocent English media shouts moral policing should not be done. You cannot control crime without moral policing.

Sexualtainment:

Todays entertainment have turned out to be a sexualtainment. It is difficult to see an entertainment without sex tone in it. Movies induce a person’s sexual feeling. 24X7 music channels mostly shows song which induces sexual feelings. Even in cricket cheerleaders are added to give glamour.  When an immoral person gets exposed to these sexsualtainment he always looks for opportunities to satisfy his sexual need.

Indecent dress:

In a society where everybody is naked then there is no problem due to dress.

But in a society where one side people are almost covered and one side people half dressed, it does create problem. When a person grows seeing women almost covered and he suddenly sees  a women half-dressed an immoral person thinks that she is approachable and that leads to some problem.

 These factors are not responsible for rapes but these helps an immoral person's mind occupied with sexual feelings. It  is the rapist who is ultimately responsible for rape and not these factors.
Because 

A moral person with values will not rape even if a girl is fully naked.

A moral person with values will not rape even if he is exposed to sexualtainment.

A moral person with values will not  rape even if he is exposed to public foreplay.

Rape is all about immorality,lack of values,bad character.

So moral education is the ultimate solution to get rid of rapes. Not only rape even for corruption,theft, burglary and other crimes lack of morality is the root cause.

  

Media and many so called intellects are suggesting for sex education but I don’t think anybody suggesting moral education. Moral education is the need of the hour.

Morality is the only thing which will save the girls from the rapes and ultimately it will save the mankind from its downfall.

All over the world government is taking steps to fulfill hunger. I don’t think any government ever involved or taken steps to fulfill the need of sex. The government should think that fulfilling sexual need of a person is also its responsibility. 

I request everybody to support and raise their voice for moral education. From Pre KG to Master Degree Moral education should be taught. Even at the corporate level moral education should be taught.

Entertainment should be about preaching, practicing morality.

Leaders should be role models.

If we sow the seed of morality in each and every human beings no crime will happen in this world.

Where is humane?

When Jews attacked only Jews should raise voice?

When Muslims attacked only Muslims should raise voice?

When Christians attacked only Christians should raise voice?

When Hindus attacked only Hindus should raise voice?

When Tamils attacked only Tamils should raise voice?

When Dalits attacked only Dalits Should raise voice?

Why not all human raise voice against violence?

It is because every human being is in a circle. First they should come out of these circles.

These circles made up of race, caste and religion.

Everyone should come out of these circles and should think that everybody is human irrespective of their race, religion, and caste.

Peace and happiness will prevail in everybody’s heart and world only when this happen.

Have you come out of these circles?

Does God Exist?

Yes God exist. But if you want to see him you have to Go Deep. I think GOD is the acronym of GO Deep. If yo Go Deep within you, you can see him and realize him. If you go deep you will come to know about the beginning of the universe who r u, who am i, and GOD.

GOD is a state. This state is the beginning of everything. Everything came from this state. Returning to this state is called becoming god.

Everything which came out of this state will again reach the same state. This is not an end.........................it may be continuation.

Does Planets Affects Our Life?

When you walk under the sun you will feel the heat. In the same way planets also affects us. Just because one doe not know or do not believe planet will not stop affecting them.

Equality

Equality is the biggest and saddest joke on the earth.
No one treats others equally.
Govts which claims of equality to every citizen also not doing that.

Here the ultimate truth is, equality is, impossible to practice.

Homosexual Affairs!!

When a man sexually attracted towards another man and a women sexually attracted towards another women then we call them homosexuals. This relationship is increasing at a fast rate among people. Today homosexuals have associations to fight for their rights. Even some countries have legitimately recognizes them. Is this trend good for human beings?

Think of a situation where every human being is interested only in homosex. What will happen??????
Yes…u r right there will not be any production of mankind.
That is the end of human race.

It is obvious that person who involves in those activities is not normal. They are psychologically affected people. It is a disease. This disease is curable. Societies should not recognize these kinds of activities at the same time they should not punish them also. The society should treat them as a patient and try to cure them.

The person who is having homosexuals should also understand that it is a curable disease and they should not continue to live with it. It is foolishness to ask for recognition and freedom to live as homosexuals.
Every problem has its own solution. If a person has problem they should not become prey for that problem rather they should find a solution. Choosing homosexual is similar to becoming prey for a problem.

Society should try to cure them. If they realize that they are psychologically affected they might cooperate. If they feel that it is their birthright and they continue to do this for fun and freedom. Then, there is no way, only operation to be done to cure this disease.

If mankind (society & countries) agrees/approve/engage in homosexual affairs ultimately they are going to face their downfall. No doubt it is a cancer for mankind. If it is not cured now it will bring the era of mankind to an end. Homosexual relationships should be considered as deadly disease and should be treated with emergency.

Extramarital Sex!!

(The following is the answer i had given to a perosn who had asked a question Is extramarital sex forbidden or Punishable? and this answer is not just to that person but for all humanbeings in the world)

Iam not sure whether it is legally punishable.
But I strongly believe no one should involve in extramarital sex.
Please please don’t spoil your life by involving in extra-marital sex

Discipline is utmost important.

R u a person who have extra marital sex??? or who wants to have extramarital sex and support this?????

I have a couple questions to you

When you are having such sex …..Think suppose if your husband or wife or children sees that …..What would they think of you??
Would they be proud of u??? Or at least would you be proud of that????

Say your father or mother is having extra-marital sex ……u r happened to see that
Will u agree that?

If you think that “I am least bothered about all those nonsense I want to have sex whenever I want and with whomever I want” then u r not a human being….there is no difference between u and animal….be happy living in that way…….

But u will feel and cry one day for that what you did and you will cry forever and if any bit of humanism left in u .. u will beg others not to have extramarital sex….take my words for granted….
So please don’t be carried away by your lust…be disciplined…sexual discipline is mother of all discipline…have sex only with your wife or husband.

Don’t do just because others are doing ……the world with free sex would be ugly……no peace of mind….. so please live with only one. In Tamil there is a proverb “Oruvanuku Oruthy” That is “for one boy one girl”…..

“One can get real happiness only within the family” so have a sexually disciplined life for your sake for your children sake grand children sake